First, some wise teaching…
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven R. Covey:
- Be Proactive.
- Begin with the End in Mind.
- First Things First.
- Think Win-Win.
- Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood.
- Sharpen the Saw; Growth.
How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie:
- Don’t Criticize, Condemn or Complain.
- Give Honest, Sincere, Appreciation.
- Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want.
- Become Genuinely Interested In Other People.
- Remember That A Person’s Name Is To That Person The Sweetest And Most Important Sound In Any Language.
- Be A Good Listener. Encourage Others To Talk About Themselves.
- Talk In Terms Of The Other Person’s Interests.
- Make The Other Person Feel Important – And Do It Sincerely.
- The Only Way To Get The Best Of An Argument Is To Avoid It.
- Show Respect For The Other Person’s Opinion. Never Say, “You’re Wrong.”
- If You Are Wrong Admit It Quickly And Emphatically.
- Begin In A Friendly Manner.
- Get The Other Person Saying “Yes, Yes.”
- Let The Other Person Do A Great Deal Of The Talking.
- Let The Other Person Feel That The Idea Is His Or Hers.
- Try Honestly To See Things From The Other Person’s Point Of View.
- Be Sympathetic With The Other Person’s Ideas And Desires.
- Appeal To The Nobler Motives.
- Dramatize Your Ideas.
- Throw Down A Challenge.
- Begin With Praise And Honest Appreciation.
- Call Attention To People’s Mistakes Indirectly.
- Talk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticizing The Other Person.
- Ask Questions Instead Of Giving Direct Orders.
- Let The Other Person Save Face.
- Praise The Slightest Improvement And Praise Every Improvement. Be “Hearty In Your Approbation And Lavish In Your Praise.”
- Give The Other Person A Fine Reputation To Live Up To.
- Use Encouragement. Make The Fault Seem Easy To Correct.
- Make The Other Person Happy About Doing The Thing You Suggest.
In the Book of Philippians by the Apostle Paul:
“Are your hearts tender and compassionate? Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose. Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”
And then one comment about last night’s presidential debate:
I didn’t see any of the above.
Friends, I’m not concerned about Nov. 3rd. I’m concerned about what comes after and what our leaders model.
I’m concerned about how we treat each other.