{"id":10095,"date":"2019-10-27T08:53:52","date_gmt":"2019-10-27T12:53:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=10095"},"modified":"2019-10-27T08:55:39","modified_gmt":"2019-10-27T12:55:39","slug":"gender-confusing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=10095","title":{"rendered":"gender. confusing?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Today I\u2019d like to talk about something I\u2019m actually hesitant to talk about. It\u2019s not that the Intramuralist doesn\u2019t have an opinion nor that I believe we cannot discuss respectfully. Rather, it\u2019s that my vantage point is so far away. Time and time again, we witness those around us (maybe even us)<\/em> become firmly entrenched in staunch, passionate opinions, failing, no less, to realize that our vantage point is so far away, that we are actually incapable<\/em> of having a fully accurate perspective. My sense is many of our conversations would be better \u2014 and more solution-oriented \u2014 if we were willing to admit that our opinion has been formed from very far away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hence, noting our very removed perspective in the following incident that made some headlines this week, there are two concluding questions that seem wise for us to ask. Let\u2019s see if we can do this well\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meet James Younger. He is a 7 year old twin brother, whose parents are involved in a significant, contentious custody battle. The primary reason for the contention is that his mother wishes to raise him instead as a girl. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anne Georgulas and Jeffrey Younger were married for 4 years before having their marriage annulled in 2016. They have been fighting in a Dallas family court for more than 2 years over the conservatorship of James.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Georgulas is a pediatrician in private practice. She believes James has gender dysphoria and thus should be raised now as a transgender girl. Georgulas calls her son, \u201cLuna.\u201d In a released video recording of James at 3, James states that he is a girl because his mother told him so and has him wear dresses and finger nail polish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Younger is a mathematician. He believes his ex-wife has \u201cmanipulated\u201d James into a \u201cfalse gender self-identity\u201d and thus opposes the child\u2019s gender transition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On Tuesday of last week, a jury ruled 11 to 1 that Georgulas has the sole right to make all medical and psychological decisions for James and his brother, Jude. On Thursday, however, after significant state and national outrage, a judge reinstated \u201cJoint Managing Conservatorship,\u201d meaning both Georgulas and Younger must be involved in decisions about their kids\u2019 medical and psychological care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First and foremost, I find my heart grieving for young James. Remember James is 7 years old. 7 year olds have just mastered learning to ride their bike. Typically in second grade, they are beginning to understand how numbers fit together; they\u2019re more solidified on left and right and how to read a clock; and they often really look forward to recess and lunch. They are not adults, and according to the medically adopted stages of child development, they are just now beginning to demonstrate logical, concrete reasoning. Logical reasoning is not indicative of 7 nor especially not 3 year olds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How confusing.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I often think of how confusing even our teenagers are,<\/em> trying to find their identity… trying to find how they fit\u2026 trying to find a way to navigate through life in a healthy way, with massive hormonal changes, in a culture that\u2019s way too full of social media, comparison, and too-often-encouraged self-absorption. As written in Psychology Today,<\/em> “One of the important things to remember is that what a teen does and is exposed to during this critical time in life, has a large influence on the teen’s future, because experience and current needs shape the pruning and sprouting process in the brain.\u201d Hence, with so many unhealthy influences coercing our kids, how can they not<\/em> be confused? And that\u2019s teenagers. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thus remembering we are so far removed from the Younger situation \u2014 and that we are incapable<\/em> of having a fully accurate perspective \u2014 I find myself wrestling with two questions\u2026

First, if a parent wants<\/em> a child to be a different gender \u2014 I ask sincerely \u2014 is that abuse?<\/em>

And second, what\u2019s the role of the state? In a situation like this, is it appropriate for the government to intervene and terminate the authority of either<\/em> parent?\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Who, friends, has the most authority for our kids?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(God help us. We need it. Did I mention this is confusing?)<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Respectfully\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

AR
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Today I\u2019d like to talk about something I\u2019m actually hesitant to talk about. It\u2019s not that the Intramuralist doesn\u2019t have an opinion nor that I believe we cannot discuss respectfully. Rather, it\u2019s that my vantage point is so far away. Time and time again, we witness those around us (maybe even us) become firmly entrenched … <\/p>\n

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