{"id":10356,"date":"2020-02-09T09:28:06","date_gmt":"2020-02-09T14:28:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=10356"},"modified":"2020-02-09T09:32:42","modified_gmt":"2020-02-09T14:32:42","slug":"a-mature-adult","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=10356","title":{"rendered":"a mature adult"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
  1. \u201cThe process of honoring someone by exhibiting care, concern, or consideration for their needs or feelings.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  2. \u201cConsideration.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  3. \u201cTo avoid interfering with or intruding upon.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  4. \u201cTo avoid violating.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  5. \u201cCourteous regard for people’s feelings.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  6. \u201cThe polite attitude shown toward someone.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  7. \u201cThe feeling you show when you accept that different customs or cultures are different from your own and behave towards them in a way that would not cause offense.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  8. \u201cTreating an individual in a dignified manner.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  9. \u201cIt means valuing each other\u2019s points of view. It means being open to being wrong.\u201d<\/em><\/li>
  10. \u201cA quality seriously lacking in today’s society.\u201d<\/em><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Each of the above is a definition of respect. There are multiple definitions. The Intramuralist speaks not of the definition equated with admiration; we instead speak of a wise way to treat all of humanity. After this past week \u2014 and witnessing repeated persons justify why it was ok for them to either be disrespectful or support (aka make excuses for)<\/em> the disrespect, it seems wise to review why we do what we do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cYou must always behave in a respectful manner as this reflects on you, your character, integrity and values of who you are as a person.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cThere is no such thing as I will give it after they give it to me first.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cTo get respect, you must give it. So respectful behavior should just be part of how you act as a person 100% of the time.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    And yet, we heard grown adults \u2014 yes, grown adults<\/em> \u2014 suggest \u201cthe other one started it\u201d is sensible and prudent rationale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    [Insert ample head shaking here.]<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    After a couple of unexpectedly rough days of school last week, I noticed a new wear and tear on my youngest\u2019s face. Full disclosure: my budding 18 year old is experiencing full on \u201csenior-itis.\u201d Sometimes I\u2019ve thoroughly enjoyed the more visible manifestations in him that I missed in my older, non-special needs sons. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cWhat\u2019s up, dude?\u201d I asked, as is a typical, emotional fishing expedition on my part.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    To which Josh shared with me a frustration with one of his educators. Now please know that as the parental overseer and advocate of Josh\u2019s education, my job has never been to blindly support Josh\u2019s behavior; my job has always been more as the educational point guard, working to ensure Josh and his educators, counselors, therapists, etc. and I are all on the same page, working together, in pursuit of Josh\u2019s academic best; his teachers have long been excellent. Josh proceeded to share with me his frustration that one of his teachers was not letting him do what he wanted to do. He was getting mad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    When I asked how he was handling his anger, he shared multiple incidents, each involving either a refusal to engage, a talking poorly of, or a lack of obedience. Each contradicted the definitions listed above.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \u201cWe don\u2019t do that, Josh. I get that you\u2019re frustrated. I get that you\u2019re angry. But disrespect is a sign of immaturity. It\u2019s not good nor God-honoring. That is unacceptable, especially now that you\u2019re an adult.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    To be fully transparent, Josh didn\u2019t care for my input either. But the reality is that regardless of whether his teacher had done something wrong or not \u2014 which she had not \u2014 his behavior should be the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The next day he was still stewing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Even the day after that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But on the third day, he apologized to his teacher.
    \n
    \nHe would tell me that she still wasn\u2019t letting him do what he wanted to do, but he knew his behavior was immature, wrong, and needed to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Way to go, my mature, God-honoring adult\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Respectfully\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    AR
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    \u201cThe process of honoring someone by exhibiting care, concern, or consideration for their needs or feelings.\u201d \u201cConsideration.\u201d \u201cTo avoid interfering with or intruding upon.\u201d \u201cTo avoid violating.\u201d \u201cCourteous regard for people’s feelings.\u201d \u201cThe polite attitude shown toward someone.\u201d \u201cThe feeling you show when you accept that different customs or cultures are different from your own … <\/p>\n

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