I was originally expecting to post remotely this day. My oldest would have been walking across the Stephen C. O\u2019Connell Center stage at the University of Florida, receiving his B.S. in Chemical Engineering. We would have spent the weekend in Gainesville, where two days prior would have been the university-wide, evening commencement ceremony in Ben Hill Griffin Stadium, the 18th largest stadium in the world. But the celebration is, well\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Different.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Hear me, please. The celebration is not gone, absent, nor nonexistent. The congratulations are no lesser nor does this change any plans of our kids\u2019 hope and future. For while the pomp in our current circumstances is diluted, the celebration still exists. It\u2019s simply different.<\/em><\/strong> We still celebrate each of our accomplished-in-their-own-way graduates\u2026 and they still need our wise words\u2026 hence\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember, grad\u2026 <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n As you enter adulthood \u2014 even in these current crazy, uncertain times \u2014 allow us to address some brief truths as you focus on these few, albeit humongous next steps\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n First, there really is a time for everything \u2014 every activity under heaven, every season under the sun. To be clear, you will not desire each of these times. Every activity will not be awesome nor every season incredibly joyous nor fun. Don\u2019t let me discourage you; that\u2019s not my intent. My intent is for you to be prepared to wisely wrestle with reality.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember that to enjoy and to embrace are not the same thing. As you face life\u2019s next chapters, the truth is that there will be seasons and chapters that stretch you beyond your wildest imagination \u2014 beyond where you ever thought you\u2019d go or perhaps ever even wanted. You have a choice in how to respond. Remember that. When the time comes to tear down or turn away, embrace the time; when the time comes to speak, speak \u2014 laugh, laugh \u2014 and certainly grieve, grieve. Enjoying the season is less important than learning from the experience. The wise man learns and grows from every experience\u2026 from the seasons that are hard. Even yes, from now.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Second \u2014 and don\u2019t let me shock you \u2014 but contrary to any long-held belief or fictional, rhetorical chant, you cannot be whatever you want to be. Sorry. Remember we are wrestling with reality. (Note: I apologize now on behalf of parents everywhere for not always promoting reality either; see Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, and\/or that jolly old St. Nick).<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n The reality is you (we) cannot be whatever\/whoever you want to be (ie. see the many who\u2019ve thought <\/em>they<\/em><\/strong> should be President). You can, though, be all that God created you to be. How?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Embrace your gifts. Utilize the unique wiring within you \u2014 the wiring that makes you distinctly, uniquely you. Don\u2019t compare yourself to another, falling prey to society\u2019s hollow teaching that another person\u2019s wiring or set up is somehow better or worse than yours. Simply embrace your own strengths and grow from your weaknesses. Seek God first; seek his intention for your life. Then be who he created you to be, and do what he created you to do. Don\u2019t compare your calling to any other. It will never be lesser. So whatever you do, do it well. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n And third \u2014 perhaps because I\u2019m more verbose than I wish to admit \u2014 allow me to humbly offer our traditional, brief, rapid fire of final encouragement \u2014 those final things we parents wish to say once more as we pass the blessed baton into adulthood\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Love deeply. Extend grace generously. Never view grace and truth as opposites, as each should be applied in full measure. Wash your sheets. More than twice a year. Don\u2019t be selfish. Resist any quickness to anger. Be fast to forgive. Be humble. Forgive again. Pursue wisdom. Don\u2019t judge any by the color of their skin. Don\u2019t judge period. Know the difference between judgment and discerning right from wrong. Consider coffee. Be careful with sugar. Be intentional in enjoying a good donut. Be intentional with more. Take an interest in others. Be sincere. Separate the reds from the whites. Laugh when you forget. Be charitable. Save some. Spend some. Give some away. Don\u2019t be afraid of sorrow. Turn off the XBOX. Put down the device. Chew with your mouth closed. Don\u2019t think of equality with God as something to be grasped. Listen to the elderly; touch them. Invest in the young. Bow. Curtsy. Open doors for other people. Don\u2019t make it about you. Show respect \u2014 in what you say and how you think. Remember that respect does not mean accepting as equally good and true. Remember that all things are not equally good and true. Know when to say that; know when to not. Look another in the eye. Use your napkin. Be discerning. Be aware that just because something feels good, it might not be wise. Be prayerful. Figure the faith thing out. And embrace each and every season shared above. Embrace the time to laugh. Cry. Grieve. And yes, dance.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n There is a time for everything. Still and especially now. Don\u2019t let the current circumstance make you doubt the hope and the future God has planned for you. He has a plan. It is good.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Graduates, still now, it\u2019s your time to dance. Enjoy as we so celebrate you.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n To the Class of 2020\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n AR I was originally expecting to post remotely this day. My oldest would have been walking across the Stephen C. O\u2019Connell Center stage at the University of Florida, receiving his B.S. in Chemical Engineering. We would have spent the weekend in Gainesville, where two days prior would have been the university-wide, evening commencement ceremony in Ben … <\/p>\n
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