{"id":14232,"date":"2024-01-07T09:00:20","date_gmt":"2024-01-07T14:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=14232"},"modified":"2024-01-07T09:11:38","modified_gmt":"2024-01-07T14:11:38","slug":"a-new-year-lets-start-with-im-sorry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=14232","title":{"rendered":"a new year. let’s start with I’m sorry."},"content":{"rendered":"\n

As the new year rolls around, I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about the Intramuralist. I believe intentionality is wise. So I ponder in the year ahead: what do we want to say\u2026 what do we want to cover\u2026 what is beneficial to pay attention to and what is a wise angle to take?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I pause a bit as I look at the year roaring toward us. I indeed wish it would come \u201cnot with a bang but a whimper.\u201d But alas, there is much soon to ring in. Note a brief sampling\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The primary season begins next week. Super Bowl LVIII kicks off on Sunday, February 11th. Then comes the total solar eclipse in early April. The Summer Olympics will begin in Paris on Friday, July 26th. And on Tuesday, November 5th (dare we say it), in rolls Election Day. Ugh, I can hardly wait. Or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But as I think of all that\u2019s coming in 2024, I think more so of what I want to say\u2026 what posture do I want to assume\u2026 and what\u2019s most important\u2026 that is\u2026 what do we need to say first so that we can respond to both the expected and unexpected wisely and well?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do we present opinion in a way that is good and right and true \u2014 and \u2014 <\/strong>never compromise being respectful to all?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think we first need to go here\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m sorry.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You heard me correctly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m sorry.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I say that not with a sadness nor any kind of woe-is-me. There\u2019s also no cringey or crumpled-up-face nor wish-you-didn\u2019t-really-read-that. I said it. I mean it. And it\u2019s exactly what I think we need to say first. It\u2019s a bit of an annual accountability check. Allow me to explain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Increasingly more I see persons absent any accountability. More and more they \u2014 I mean, we<\/strong> \u2014 justify the unjustifiable\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We justify the anger; we justify the insult; we justify the canceling \u2014 or creatively attempt to call it something else. The bottom line is that we justify the wrongful treatment of someone. <\/em>We say \u201cwe\u2019re mad as hell and not going to take it any more,\u201d and then we find really rude ways of not taking it. We tell someone off. We say we\u2019ve had enough. We justify the fight. And we fight mean. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We block. We unfriend. We tune totally out for reasons other than establishing healthy boundaries. We justify not listening. We even conclude in our heads and hearts there\u2019s no need to. We then creatively craft some emotionally lofty perch to boldly conclude another is not worth <\/em>listening to. We thereby justify concluding with total decisiveness we are right; there is no need to even consider<\/em> another angle opinion or perspective. We justify the unjustifiable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I get it. The reality is that we have<\/em> had enough. We’re tired. We\u2019re also hurt and angry, and we\u2019ve been wronged. Maybe it isn\u2019t us who\u2019ve been hurt or angry or wronged, but we saw it done to someone else. We perceive someone treated poorly or oppressively and so the end absolutely justifies the means. And somewhere therein, the disrespectful crazy cycle has begun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And we get arrogant. Puffed up. Stuck in our own, insulated eco-system. We stop learning; we only pad the opinion of what we already believe.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As said, I\u2019m sorry. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because sometimes that\u2019s been me. Sometimes I\u2019ve been stuck in the crazy cycle. Sometimes my opinion has made so much sense to me that there hasn\u2019t existed any reason to research, listen, or be patient any more.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, even, I\u2019ve come to the naive conclusion that because you disagree with me, you must not care as much as I do. Sometimes, friends, I\u2019ve been disrespectful. I\u2019ve been wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The truth is I haven\u2019t always led with humility. And that, my friends, is what I wish to do with all that\u2019s coming in 2024. Whether it be the eclipse or the election, I promise to lead with humility.

I don\u2019t promise to be perfect\u2026 an impossibility this side of eternity. But I do promise to react in what I believe is the only wise way forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Time to humbly (and wittingly) do this together. Here\u2019s to all that\u2019s ahead.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Respectfully\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

AR<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As the new year rolls around, I\u2019ve been thinking a lot about the Intramuralist. I believe intentionality is wise. So I ponder in the year ahead: what do we want to say\u2026 what do we want to cover\u2026 what is beneficial to pay attention to and what is a wise angle to take? I pause … <\/p>\n

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