{"id":4828,"date":"2015-06-07T08:07:05","date_gmt":"2015-06-07T12:07:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=4828"},"modified":"2015-06-07T08:14:13","modified_gmt":"2015-06-07T12:14:13","slug":"choosing-a-side","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=4828","title":{"rendered":"choosing a side"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"IMG_4529\"<\/a>Why do we have to choose? What is it about society that pushes us to choose a single side? … as if all conflict is so black and white, that we feel so enamored and capable of assessing\u00a0the complete, altruistic values of one side — and the evil endeavors of the other?<\/p>\n

The push comes early in life — and<\/em> — in seemingly, every<\/em> arena. For example…<\/p>\n

In sports, even though it\u2019s supposedly \u201conly a game,\u201d it seems as if there is a push to identify one team as morally superior and simultaneously demonize the other. It\u2019s as if in our preference for one, we have to find something that\u2019s inherently wrong with the other. In our fandom, we get forced to choose a side — deeming one to be all good and the other all bad… whether that be in the NBA finals, NHL finals, or even on a summer, Little League field.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, too, I see this so-called “side choosing” in friendship, relationship, marriage, etc. When a relationship ends, many\u00a0of us near to the situation feel as if we must choose a side to remain friends with. Granted, there are times when one person\u00a0intentionally, deeply harms another and is\u00a0wholly responsible for the broken relationship; that’s different. But I will say that there have been times over the course of my life where I’ve felt it wise to equally\u00a0honor, love, and befriend both involved in the broken relationship.\u00a0It’s not always a sided issue.<\/p>\n

Perhaps the current push to choose a single side is most prominent in the political arena. As one party seeks to gain an advantage over the other, they encourage us choose only them — and they want us to demonize the different.<\/p>\n

It was just this past week that candidate Hillary Clinton said, \u201cToday Republicans are systematically and deliberately trying to stop millions of American citizens from voting.\u201d<\/em> And it was only two weeks ago when conservative commentator Rush Limbaugh said, \u201cThey misstated facts…\u00a0They did that to get more guilt money to launder for their political party… that’s the MO of the Democrat Party.\u00a0This is how Democrats work.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

Notice what they\u2019re both doing? They are both attempting to build themselves up by tearing another down. They are both attempting to get us to deem one side as ultra altruistic — and concurrently, the other side as utterly evil. While undoubtedly we can believe certain policies adopted by one party to be wiser than another\u2019s, to demonize an entire party and prompt us to choose a single side is a disingenuous technique with other motives in mind.<\/p>\n

It reminds me of Rob Reiner\u2019s 1995 \u201cThe American President\u201d movie, when Pres. Andrew Sherman (played by Michael Douglas)<\/em> faced nagging conflict from an opposing candidate. Sherman said his opponent isn\u2019t interested in solution. Instead, \u201cHe is interested in two things, and two things only — making you afraid of it, and telling you who’s to blame for it. That, ladies and gentlemen, is how you win elections.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

I feel as if time and time again, persons attempt to lure us into believing all things are a sided issue… like it\u2019s black and white and we should be picking a unilateral, single side.<\/p>\n

This concept has now moved into the social arena. Notice how currently, we are seemingly being pushed to choose a side<\/em> regarding Bruce\/Caitlyn Jenner and the Duggar family. Bruce has gone through transgender transition to become Caitlyn in a way that has invited and attracted ample publicity. The Duggars are a conservative, reality TV family, whose son, Josh, recently acknowledged fondling four sisters and a babysitter twelve years ago.<\/p>\n

Friends, it is totally ok to have an opinion on each of these issues. It is totally ok to believe that a behavior or mindset is good\/bad, pure\/impure, or healthy\/unhealthy and to respectfully speak out on these issues.<\/p>\n

What I do not believe is necessary is to choose a side.<\/em>\u00a0There is no \u201cside\u201d to Jenner\u2019s gender, and there is no \u201cside\u201d to Josh Duggar\u2019s former fondling. My sense is that if we wish to continue with solution-oriented dialogue — if we want to wrestle with what’s good and true and right and what’s not — then\u00a0one of our first (and wisest)<\/em> steps would be to quit\u00a0being lured into choosing a\u00a0nonexistent, so-called side.<\/p>\n

Respectfully…<\/p>\n

AR<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Why do we have to choose? What is it about society that pushes us to choose a single side? … as if all conflict is so black and white, that we feel so enamored and capable of assessing\u00a0the complete, altruistic values of one side — and the evil endeavors of the other? The push comes … <\/p>\n

Continue reading “choosing a side”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4828","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-current-event"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4828","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4828"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4828\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4836,"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4828\/revisions\/4836"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4828"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4828"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4828"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}