{"id":6268,"date":"2016-05-31T08:24:13","date_gmt":"2016-05-31T12:24:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=6268"},"modified":"2016-05-31T08:24:13","modified_gmt":"2016-05-31T12:24:13","slug":"who-do-we-blame","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=6268","title":{"rendered":"who do we blame?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When bad things happen, it often seems our instant\u00a0reaction is to blame\u2026 Who\u2019s at fault?! \u2026 Someone must pay for this!\u2026 Someone is in the wrong!<\/em><\/p>\n

We then spend significant energy and time targeting the person(s) we have so omnisciently, judiciously determined to be responsible for what happened. We assign blame.<\/p>\n

We seem unwilling to acknowledge the prudence of recognizing our perspective may be limited. We ignore that perhaps time will tell more of the story; maybe it won\u2019t. But we are somehow lured into thinking we are experts at things we are not \u2014 and that takes the place of extending most mercy and grace. We feel emboldened in assigning blame.<\/p>\n

On Saturday, a four year old boy fell into the gorilla enclosure at the Cincinnati Zoo. One 17 year old gorilla \u2014 named \u201cHarambe\u201d \u2014 was then shot and killed, after rapidly dragging the boy through the waters edging the habitat. Zoo officials called it “a life-threatening situation” for the boy. Note, also, the decision was made to shoot and kill the animal, as opposed to tranquilizing him, because the boy was in danger and the tranquilizer would not have taken effect immediately. Also, the tranquilizer could have potentially, further agitated the gorilla.<\/p>\n

What has actually taken effect immediately, however, is the assigning of blame. It has been fast and furious\u2026<\/p>\n

The parents are negligent\u2026<\/em>
\nYou need to keep an eye on your kids\u2026<\/em>
\nThey shouldn\u2019t have killed the gorilla\u2026<\/em>
\nJustice for Harambe\u2026<\/em>
\nProtest! Protest!\u2026<\/em>
\nPeople do not come above animals\u2026<\/em>
\nParents need to do their job\u2026<\/em>
\nThat dumb bi*** should have kept her kid closer\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

Ugh. There\u2019s a proverbial pit in my stomach. I feel bad. I feel bad for the gorilla; it\u2019s awful his life was lost. I feel bad for the parents; the shock of seeing their kid in danger and wondering if they could have prevented it. I feel bad for the zoo officials; I\u2019m not sure I could have pulled that trigger. But is feeling bad for all of them not possible? Can we only empathize with one? Can we not have empathy or compassion for more than a single side?<\/p>\n

And by feeling bad for only one, is that what allows us to assign blame to another?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m beginning to ponder if the assignment of blame equates to an absence of empathy. I will have to think on that more\u2026<\/p>\n

In the meantime, I wonder if one of the justifications for our blame assignment is that we too often convince ourselves that \u201cwe would never<\/strong> do that\u201d<\/em> or \u201cwe are incapable.\u201d<\/em> I get that; we all do it. But I\u2019m not sure it\u2019s accurate. I\u2019ve made some mistakes in this life that I never imagined. I\u2019ve seen dear friends make other poor decisions. And but by the grace of God, I think I\u2019m unfortunately capable of too much more; hence, thank God for that grace! I\u2019m thus uncomfortable that our belief of being incapable of similar screw ups provides justification for the lack of empathy and the assignment of blame.<\/p>\n

As a semi-humble current events observer, let me also add that here exists an avenue in which I perceive social media having evolved into an illegitimate license to spew \u2014 to spew an opinion when perhaps patience, silence, and compassion would be more sensible. Social media is not a conversation; a tweet or snap or status update does not qualify as dialogue. And so we are lured into spewing opinion, forgetting our limited perspective, our lack of expertise, and that time and increased investigation may be prudent to the truth. Instead of actually taking that time, instead of waiting and saying prayers for the persons most affected by the situation, we instead assign blame.<\/p>\n

I am saddened that the animal was killed. But I am more saddened by our lack of generous grace.<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to good people. I\u2019m not sure we\u2019re ever going to be ok with that. I\u2019m not sure assigning blame helps either.<\/p>\n

Respectfully\u2026
\nAR<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When bad things happen, it often seems our instant\u00a0reaction is to blame\u2026 Who\u2019s at fault?! \u2026 Someone must pay for this!\u2026 Someone is in the wrong! We then spend significant energy and time targeting the person(s) we have so omnisciently, judiciously determined to be responsible for what happened. We assign blame. We seem unwilling to … <\/p>\n

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