{"id":708,"date":"2012-08-14T08:04:47","date_gmt":"2012-08-14T12:04:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=708"},"modified":"2012-08-14T08:04:47","modified_gmt":"2012-08-14T12:04:47","slug":"the-moving-process","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=708","title":{"rendered":"the moving process"},"content":{"rendered":"

[Note: \u00a0Today is day 6 of 10 in our annual Guest Blogger Series. \u00a0Please remember: \u00a0the Intramuralist may or may not agree with the opinion(s) expressed. \u00a0The goal is respectful articulation.]<\/em><\/p>\n

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After over 30 years in a home that had seen the rearing of children, the hospitality of neighbors, the hosting of family gatherings, I engaged in the daunting task of MOVING.\u00a0 Oh, it was time, and I was excited about the new home we had purchased.\u00a0 Even the term “downsizing” was appealing. Nevertheless, “daunting” was the right word.<\/p>\n

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Closets held too much clothes; shelves held too many books; storage areas contained too many long unopened boxes; furniture was unusable in the new house.\u00a0 But where to begin?\u00a0 Sorting, pitching, saving I knew, but what should go into each category?\u00a0 Goodwill and I became personal acquaintances.\u00a0 Chin families needed clothes and linens.\u00a0 Salvation Army picked up furniture.\u00a0 Records and books went to the Half-priced store (for little in return).<\/em>\u00a0 My piano went to grandchildren.\u00a0 (Notice, no garage sales… that’s not for me.)<\/em>\u00a0 High school and college papers and classroom lesson plans I purged… with some reluctance.\u00a0\u00a0At times\u00a0I did feel as if I were “downsizing” me.<\/p>\n

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But I saved other treasures of sentiment as well…\u00a0gift books with special notes written in the cover by the giver, my dad’s violin, my mother’s dresser, dishes that were their wedding gifts, the first dress I sewed for a 4-H project at age 12 (white fabric\u00a0with frisky pink lambs on it),<\/em> pictures and professional recognitions.\u00a0 Items likes these are touched with love and memory of events and people dear to me.\u00a0 I’m not saving just the item, but the warmth therein.<\/p>\n

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However, I have discovered that often a process\u00a0has many\u00a0other applications.\u00a0 I wonder if it would not be wise to evaluate just what intangibles we are hanging on to, that which has no real value and should be\u00a0 purged as well:<\/p>\n

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\u2014 a self-regret based on “woulda-coulda-shoulda”<\/p>\n

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\u2014 a resentment that others have achieved what we have not<\/p>\n

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\u2014 an ego which prevents us from seeing the good in others<\/p>\n

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\u2014 a prejudice that blankets collectively people we don’t even know<\/p>\n

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\u2014 an anger that we nurse and rehearse because we won’t admit we might be wrong<\/p>\n

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\u2014 an unwillingness to forgive because that might give a gift to one who doesn’t deserve it… when it really is a gift we give ourselves<\/p>\n

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\u2014 an excuse to live not as we are called to by serving and loving others<\/p>\n

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Yes, I found the moving process though laborious, yet liberating as well.\u00a0 Shedding “stuff” simplifies life.\u00a0 But wouldn’t letting go of negative attitudes and hostilities be even more simplifying?\u00a0 More freeing?\u00a0 Wouldn’t each day be more peaceful without carrying around a load of burdensome feelings and inner turmoil?<\/p>\n

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Consider trying it. This is a process that doesn’t require a change of address… only a change of heart.<\/p>\n

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P.S. Thanks, Intramuralist… and I don’t miss a thing I left behind.<\/p>\n

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Respectfully,<\/p>\n

DL<\/p>\n

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[Intramuralist Note:\u00a0 DL has poured insight into me for decades; <\/em>most<\/em><\/strong> of the time, I listened.\u00a0 Well done, Madre… well done.]<\/em><\/p>\n


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