{"id":8823,"date":"2018-06-27T08:16:55","date_gmt":"2018-06-27T12:16:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=8823"},"modified":"2018-06-27T08:16:55","modified_gmt":"2018-06-27T12:16:55","slug":"honked-off","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intramuralist.com\/?p=8823","title":{"rendered":"honked off"},"content":{"rendered":"

I did it again.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you believe it?!<\/i>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

And it was on the way to church\u2026<\/i> to<\/i> church<\/i> \u2014 for goodness sakes!!<\/p>\n

The light had turned green, and yet the Rogue driver in front of me didn\u2019t move\u2026<\/p>\n

\u2026 one Mississippi\u2026 two Mississippi\u2026<\/i><\/p>\n

HONK!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ok, it really wasn\u2019t that loud; it was more like a \u201chonk\u201d<\/i> \u2014 much lighter, if you will.<\/p>\n

And then I realized it. There are four types of \u201chonkers\u201d in current culture\u2026<\/p>\n

First, the \u201cI Will Never\u201d <\/i>Honker\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n

\u2026 No matter what, no matter how egregious the error on another\u2019s behalf \u2014 even if they are totally in the wrong and thinking crazily, irrationally, and all of the above \u2014 I will not\u2026 I refuse \u2014 not\u2026 I will never honk my horn to bring attention to you\u2026 I just couldn\u2019t do that to another\u2026<\/i><\/p>\n

Second \u2014 (yes, moi) <\/i>\u2014 the \u201cTap, Tap\u201d<\/i> Honker\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n

\u2026 I really don\u2019t want to\u2026 I don\u2019t want to honk my horn at you. I want to treat you well and respect you, but the reality is that you\u2019re not acting wisely. You need to move or do something different. Hence, I will lightly tap on my horn, letting you know I\u2019ve noticed, but I have no desire to embarrass, shame, or disrespect you\u2026<\/i><\/p>\n

Next, the \u201cLess-Than-Half-a-Second”<\/i> Honker\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n

\u2026 Oh, my\u2026 I have no time for this. You are inconveniencing me so much\u2026 you are a freaking menace to society! Don\u2019t you realize it? MOVE! And move <\/i>now!<\/i><\/b> Geesh\u2026<\/i><\/p>\n

And lastly, the \u201cFlip-You-Off-While-You\u2019re-at-It\u201d <\/i>Honker\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n

\u2026 Not only are you a frickin\u2019 menace to society, but you shouldn\u2019t even exist! Get the $#!%&! out of here! You are a disgrace to the human race. You shouldn\u2019t have ever been born!..\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

[Pause\u2026 deep breath\u2026]<\/p>\n

So question\u2026<\/p>\n

Which of the above \u201chonkers\u201d will make an effective difference on another\u2019s journey?<\/p>\n

Which of the above \u201chonkers\u201d makes you want to be a little more like them?<\/p>\n

As one witty, recent meme suggested: \u201cFYI: If you beep your horn 0.3 seconds after the light changes green, I will shut off my car, lay on the hood, and feed birds for an hour.\u201d<\/p>\n

In other words, honking at people more often than not, doesn\u2019t produce the kind of change we say we believe in; it doesn\u2019t make people act more like we desire; it doesn\u2019t make them want to be more like us. They might move in the moment, so-to-speak, but lasting change is typically not a result of demonstrative honking.<\/p>\n

So where do we need to change how we let another know of their perceived error in judgment? \u2026 an error that inconveniences us or is in our way somehow? What if it\u2019s ridiculous, even foolish behavior?<\/p>\n

Great questions.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe we should spend more time asking and listening as opposed to finding louder ways to honk our horn.<\/p>\n

Respectfully\u2026<\/p>\n

AR<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I did it again.\u00a0 Can you believe it?!\u00a0 And it was on the way to church\u2026 to church \u2014 for goodness sakes!! The light had turned green, and yet the Rogue driver in front of me didn\u2019t move\u2026 \u2026 one Mississippi\u2026 two Mississippi\u2026 HONK! Ok, it really wasn\u2019t that loud; it was more like a … <\/p>\n

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