Wow… this may be the best thing I’ve heard in a while. Not just the best, but maybe one of the most widely relevant for us all.
But first, allow us three brief but necessary definitions. Let’s define curious, condemning, and to condemn.
curious | ˈkyo͝orēəs |
adjective
1. eager to know or learn something; inquisitive.
2. interested, inquiring.
And also…
condemning | kənˈdem iNG | |
adjective
1. to condemn.
And thus…
condemn | kənˈdem |
verb
- to express an unfavorable or adverse judgment on; indicate strong disapproval of.
- to pronounce to be guilty; sentence to punishment.
- to condemn a murderer to life imprisonment.
- to give grounds or reason for convicting or censuring.
- to judge or pronounce to be unfit for use or service.
- to condemn an old building.
- to force into a specific state or activity.
- to doom to eternal punishment in hell.
- to declare incurable.
One of the blessings of this age and stage of life is that I have multiple wise and wonderful friends who are established, mental health professionals. Among them are psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and counselors who have years of seasoned experience and insight. They have some excellent things to say.
This week in one of my interactions, one shared one of those nuggets of truth that I knew I needed to hold onto. It was simple, but so poignant. So true. And so wanting for all to know.
She said it’s impossible to be curious and condemning at the same time.
Let me say that again…
It’s impossible to be curious and condemning at the same time.
Without a doubt, in this heightened, polarizing culture we live in, there is a ton of condemnation… a plethora of expressing unfavorable or adverse judgment of another… not just for what people do, but sadly, for who they are.
It makes me think…
We have lost our pursuit of curiosity. We have dismissed its value, its beauty and its need. When we are curious of another, we seek to understand, to learn and to know. We recognize there is always more we need to know. What a gift curiosity proves to be.
There is wisdom, therefore, in being a curious people.
Sounds like something essential to work on.
Respectfully…
AR
